Searching for Single Black Women? A photo is worth a thousand words
Did you know profiles with photos are up to TEN TIMES more likely to get responses than profiles without photos? Here are some quick hints to keep in mind:
- Smile! It's well worth it to have someone take a recent photo of you when you're at your happiest and most relaxed. Remember a picture truly speaks a thousand words.
- Lighting is important. Don't hide behind dark sunglasses or in a picture that's hard to really see what you look like. People want to see who they are emailing.
- Your photo should say something about you and only you. For example, a picture of you with your arm around someone does not send the message you're available. Posting an photo that includes a child, a cat, a dog, a friend or a group of friends may detract from the key point: YOU. Utilizing the profile section gives you the opportunity to talk about your passions, your interests, your family or your friends.
Ask Dr. Schwartz
Q:
I met this great woman about a month ago and we are very compatible and seem to have a lot of chemistry. She recently asked me for some space and I don’t know how long I am supposed to go without sending an email or text message. I miss her, but want to give her the time she needs.
A:
It's not a good sign when someone asks you for more space. She’s backing away either because she wants to downgrade the speed of the relationship or she realizes the relationship is not right for her.
By your words, you really like her. However, you can't force someone to feel the same way about you. Your only option initially is to do what she has asked for – give her some space. If she doesn't contact you in the near future, you’ll have your answer. Sadly, this will be an answer that may hurt.
If after a month and there is no word from her, you should return to Perfectmatch.com and begin a new search. It’s important to keep your heart open to finding that special someone who returns your love equally. Be grateful for the time you had together, but enjoy the new opportunities that come with meeting someone new!
This won’t make anyone feel good, but they will respect you for your courtesy. No one likes to be left, but it can either feel like a slap in the face, or a gentle parting. If you leave the right way, it will feel like the latter rather than the former. It will say a lot about you and ultimately you want women to think you are a “stand up” kind of guy. More importantly, you want to think of yourself this way.
Far too many men and women never make this call and/or type a respectful exit email to the person they stopped seeing. I hope other people read this answer and reevaluate their personal code of ethics. We all have a responsibility to be kind and respectful. It’s the right thing to do, and it makes it more likely if a time comes someone decides to discontinue seeing us, they’ll do it the right way, too.
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